Dear Blog
People have asked us how we are dealing with the new relationship, going from being best friends, to being married. I always said I wanted to marry my best friend and in this case I did. *happy face*
I tell them that usually our relationship is based on full honestly. We talk in terms of '”we”, “us” and “ours”, instead of “I”, “me” and “my”. Since we got married we try talking in a unity, act as if we were one.
I won’t lie and say that there aren’t days when we argue and have typical couple arguments. But in our relationship we know our weaknesses and we love each other for them.
We respect each other. There are times when we get on each others nerve, but one of us always says those three magic words “I am sorry”. In a lot of relationships one partner has a hard time saying that or admitting it. Gerry and I will say it and mean it. We admit our faults. We admit to be wrong when sometimes we are not. We give in to each other for the sake of not being resentful.
One thing I read in a magazine a couple years ago was that to have a successful marriage, you needed to give in to your partner and not criticize a lot. For example, we divide the housework by areas. One week I am in charge of the moping and vacuuming, while he washes windows and dusts. While I don’t like how he dusts, I don’t complain in front of him. I give him tips, but I never go back and Re-dust. I don’t tell him he does a bad job. I will get to dust the area “correctly” or “to my liking” the following week.
Respect. If i didn’t show him that, then he would hate doing the housework around the house. He would hate ‘helping out’.
We work together. It is our home, our life. We make it work.
So, making things work isn’t always simple, but I would like to think that for newlyweds we get along just fine.
Till next time
XOXO
Desirae
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