Friday, May 14, 2010

How do you tell your parents that you are engaged to your best male gay friend?

Hey there Blogger readers
I need some advice.
How do you tell your parents that you are engaged (or soon to be engaged) to your best male gay friend?
(and you are happy about the marriage proposal)
Haha, I know this is an odd question indeed. I would appreciate answers to be sent to my writer’s email address
writerupdates_dc@yahoo.com

You are great! Thanks!
So, why am I asking this question? I’ll let you know as soon as I get the best answer.

I’ve been trying to come up with an answer for this, but can’t come up with anything quite creative. I am an aspiring writing, and indeed it is a challenge, but I need the answer to not make the parents want to jump off a roof.
Personally, even at my “young” age I have been proposed to twice, and I never told my parents.
First time a guy “proposed” to me I was just graduating from junior high school about to go into high school. So, obviously NO ONE in their right mind believes that a proposal that young is true!! Ha ha. Besides, I know that if I ever told my parents about that, then it would be something they would tell at every family event to bring up an embarrassing subject. (like pulling out naked baby pictures of you when you bring home your boyfriend. A-w-k-w-a-r-d!!!!)
Junior high- High School proposal- TOTAL JOKE! The guy was older than me, by 4 years, meaning he was about to go into college, but I restrain myself from commenting. Seriously.

Second proposal, was somewhat recent. (meaning it was within the last two years.)
This last one was tempting to take into consideration. Not because I am a hopeless romantic, but because he showed up with the ring.
A girl’s worst nightmare; having to “humiliate” a guy by rejecting him when he is kneeling on the ground holding out a ring for you.
Horrible. I felt horrible telling him I did not love him. I can say I LOVE frogs, but I cannot lie and say I love a guy I do not love at all.
His reasons for telling me he liked me a loved me were heart breaking. But what cut the romance, was when he told me that if I married him he would pay for me to finish my education. He would support me.
*clenching of fist*
1) I do not belong to anyone.
2) I do not want a guy thinking I’m something that needs supporting.
3) And I will never have someone pay for me, because then they turn on you and back-stab you.
4) I am no ones girl to be taken care of like a delicate being. I can be independent and I will be.
5) I do not need a guy trying to buy me by pretending to be rich. Money isn’t everything. It buys stuff, but it cannot buy my heart.

I didn’t tell the guy to shove the ring where no one would find it, but I was tempted. (just kidding)
It was not easy handing him back his heart in the black velvet box. I know that if I could have pretended to love him and take advantage of the situation, but I decided against it.
We are acquaintances now. He is about to finish his master’s degree and I’m still studying my college degree.

So, I think, that when it comes to “how do you tell your parents you’re engaged to your best male friend? (who is gay). I would not know.
I can tell you a million ways how to say “no” in a proposal.
I could probably tell you a few romantic ways how to say “yes” in a proposal. But when it comes to being open with the parents about the “future-son-in-law”, I am in BLANK”.


So blogger-readers
What are your suggestions?

Till next time!
Love
D.C.

2 comments:

Carolina Posadas said...

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D.C. said...

ah... my favorite fan...
Thanks for your enlightening comment. I will take it into consideration.

;)